Having a baby. Consider this important aspects before. Young children need a lot of attention, and evidently, many are not getting what they need. Never have our young people been so isolated from their families. We all need to learn how to become parents, we need to realize that the time we spend with our kids now will come back to us with many, many returns.
Even babies need regular instruction throughout the day. Time spent with young ones from their babyhood on is vital for their wholesome development. You need for preparation. Parents need to prepare for their baby's arrival. First, mental and spiritual preparation for taking on the responsibilities of parenthood is important. A study of 2,000 pregnant women who looked forward to having a family were much healthier emotionally and physically than the offspring of mothers who did not want their babies. On the other hand, it has been estimated that a woman locked in a stormy marriage runs a 237 percent greater risk of bearing an emotionally or physically damaged baby than a woman in a secure relationship.
Clearly, then, fathers are important to the successful development of a child. Few things are more dangerous to a child, emotionally and physically, than a father who abuses or neglects his pregnant wife. Indeed, it has often been noted that the best gift a child can receive is a father who loves its mother.
Hormones related to anxiety and stress, secreted into the mother's bloodstream, can affect the fetus. However, it is thought that only intense or prolonged maternal anxiety, rather than occasional negative emotions or stressful events, is hazardous. What matters the most seems to be how the expectant mother feels about the unborn.
Not only stress hormones but also nicotine, alcohol, and other drugs may have adverse effects on the fetus. Expectant mothers do well to stay away from any dangerous substance. In addition, it is vital to check with a doctor regarding the effects of medication on the fetus.
If a mother feels profound sadness and hopelessness as well as a sense of detachment from the baby and from the world, she may be suffering from postpartum depression. If that is the case, she should consult her obstetrician.
What if you are pregnant and your husband is not supportive, or what if you personally resent the idea of becoming a mother? It is not unusual that circumstances may cause a woman to feel depressed about her pregnancy. Yet, always remember that your child is not at fault. Maintain a calm attitude despite adverse circumstances.
In the first few weeks after giving birth, some young mothers experience unexplained sadness and lethargy. Even women who were happy to have the baby can become moody. Such mood swings are not unusual. This is because after giving birth, women can experience dramatic changes in hormone levels. It is also common for a new mother to be overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood feeding, changing diapers, and caring for the baby, who has no concept of time.
Some mothers feel that the baby cries just to torment her. No one is free from experiencing the stress that comes with child rearing. According to some specialists, "the most important thing is for a mother never to isolate herself."
Even if a mother feels depressed at times, she can protect her child from being affected by her mood swings. I have read somewhere that depressed mothers who managed to rise above their melancholy, lavishing their babies with attention and indulging in playful games, had children with brain activity of a considerably more cheerful cast.
The baby's father is often in the best position to provide needed help and support. When the baby cries in the middle of the night, in many instances the father can look after the baby's needs so that his mate can sleep. Husbands must always treat their wives with consideration in their life together. Mothers need Husbands who sacrifice their own comforts to take some initiatives in child rearing. Indeed, having a baby is a joint venture, a cooperative effort in which both parents need to participate.
As husband and wife, we've discussed in detail how we should rear our children. Each time an issue arises, we talk over how we should proceed. My husband realizes that I needed my rest.
In the past, I remember that when families were commonly large, parents had the help of older children and relatives to share in child care. In most cases, mothers will be relieved when they talk to others about the matter. With just a little bit of help, many mothers have been able to cope in the face of obstacles.
Parents need a network of people they can call on to share their concerns. By being open-minded and listening to parents or in-laws, new mothers and fathers can benefit considerably. Of course, the grandparents should appreciate that final decisions rest in the hands of the young couple.