Are you experiencing anxiety and depression? Have you ever thought that the cause may be the fact that you are a perfectionist in an imperfect world? Here are some suggestions to help you let go of perfection and start enjoying life again.
1. Lower your expectations of yourself and others.
Realise that you may be stressing yourself needlessly into anxiety and depression by holding yourself up to a high benchmark that you may not be able to meet. You may also be judging other people as guilty of not meeting your high ideals. People are going to act according to their values, not according to your standards.
You have the power to lower that benchmark yourself by simply noticing where you think you or another person "should" be different and just decide to allow whatever is, to be exactly as it is right now.
2. Decide to let go of the way things should have been.
If you are depressed, you may be angry or sad that something did not turn out the way you would have wanted it.
Just realise that you may still be holding on to the way things "should have been" rather than letting go and moving on. If they could have been that way, they would have been. Acceptance is the key to progressing in life. You can do that right now by giving up perfection for acceptance and health. Just try it now and see how you feel.
3. Challenge your thinking.
If you are anxious and depressed, maybe it's time to ask yourself who said you need to walk with fear everyday as your companion? You can choose to have faith by your side each day instead, if you so choose but you have to make that a conscious choice.
Are you constantly worried about someone or maybe you are worried that something bad is going to happen?
All that is happening is that you are living in a possible future where you are resisting whatever may or may not happen and frightening yourself in the process.
Bring your focus back to the present moment and just realise "right here, right now, all is well as it is". Be willing to accept, rather than resist, whatever may or may not happen in the future, when it occurs, to save yourself needless worry.
Trust that you will be able to deal with whatever happens, if and when it does.
Anxiety and depression can be alleviated if we choose to start believing that everything happens for a good reason in our lives to help us grow in some way. Just putting the above suggestions into practice will help you feel lighter and begin shifting your life for the better.
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